I am just beginning my 23rd week of pregnancy. I was in my 23rd week when Scott was born. The nurses and doctors at the hospital told me that babies born at this stage have no chance of survival. I just finished updating the pregnancy information on the side of my blog. I copy and paste that information directly from http://www.parents.com/. It says that by the end of the week the survival rate is 85%. I was 22 weeks 5 days, or in other words two days short of "the end of the week." Why did they not even attempt to do anything for my baby?
Tuesday, September 2, 2008
Week 23
I am just beginning my 23rd week of pregnancy. I was in my 23rd week when Scott was born. The nurses and doctors at the hospital told me that babies born at this stage have no chance of survival. I just finished updating the pregnancy information on the side of my blog. I copy and paste that information directly from http://www.parents.com/. It says that by the end of the week the survival rate is 85%. I was 22 weeks 5 days, or in other words two days short of "the end of the week." Why did they not even attempt to do anything for my baby?
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What a hard question. I would probably wonder the same thing if I was in your situation. I'm so sorry you are even in the place where it is a question you have to ask!
They should have. End of story. Whether the outcome would have been the same or not they should have at least given his mommy the peace of knowing they gave him a shot.
However, I know from personal experience, that if a baby is supposed to be here, they make it safely, no matter what the circumstances. And if the Lord needs them back hom, He takes them home and there is nothing we can do about it. In the long run it's better that way, His plan is better than anything we could ever come up with. But it sucks when His plan and ours don't jive with each other.
Have you asked? After my daughter passed away I think the dr's and hospitals were a bit afraid of us, but we just were searching for answers. We never found any, but at least we did all we could - we even got records and sent them in to an attorney (I think hospitals have to keep medical records for at least a year)....anyway, it made us feel better to try even though we know her passing was for the best (we wanted to prevent it from happening again!)
I agree with your friend above - Heavenly Father's plan IS better than ours and he blesses us so much for what we endure. I couldn't see it for a while, but now, 2 1/2 years later, I'm catching a glimpse :)
I'm glad everything is going well with your baby boy and that he is passing that 23rd week with out complications!
As for Scott, I'm sorry that you have to have questions like that. I was, however, looking at the website and reading some articles and at the bottom it says "The information on this Web site is designed for educational purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for informed medical advice or care." So, just a thought that every pregnancy is so individualized and I would assume your doctors did what was best for your situation. But I know you wish they had given you more information and that's where they were at fault. I'm sorry Jessica!
I agree with Sarah's comments. I have often wondered why they didn't do more for Scott. I know a lot of babies born that early can & do survive. I've just never wanted to say anything to make you feel worse. It is hard to know why things happen the way they do. The most we can do is pray for peace and understanding and know that Heavenly Father is aware of each of us and has a plan for us.
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